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A Few Thoughts on Achieving Success

If you can ever wrap your head around the fact that the world is not fair, you may have a chance to succeed.

I can remember when I use to get mad at things when they went against me. I was stupid enough to believe that I should get what I want.

I deserve it, right? I did everything perfectly.

Nope.

If you do everything perfectly, you may still not get what you want.

Which leads most of us to holding a grudge. I like to think of a grudge as roadblock we put up in our own path of success. It is crazy how much we can sabotage ourselves.

What’s even worse is that once we set up this roadblock, we start to spiral down even further. We may even find ourselves chasing approval.

You can often see this after a break-up. A girl or guy will continue to chase someone after getting dumped. They enter into a state of fear. Fear that they aren’t good enough. You may even begin to hold wierd or stupid grudges that have no merit. This mindset is a almost certain to bring failure.

This fear can happen even if you did everything correctly. It can happen to anyone.

When things go against you, it’s hard to keep pushing forward.

This is why reaching any personal success is so hard. There are countless unforeseen barriers that you have to overcome.

Most people give up. It’s easier then fighting for something you no longer believe in.

So, what’s the solution?

The solution is pretty simple. Just show up and keep trying. You must keep doing the small things that will one day lead to what you want.

You don’t need to believe you will make it. Just keep doing what you need to do despite you feeling like your world is crashing down all around you (easier said then done).

I currently work a lot of hours at my jobs (60-80 hours a week). I have some health issues, but I keep pushing for my personal dream. I do this despite the fact that I doubt myself most days.

My dream is simply to make one small change in the world. A change that will make it a better place.

I don’t know if I ever will. I may fail. But, I just keep pushing. I can live with the fact that I tried my best no matter what.

I don’t chase happiness. I live it. I accept my life as it is and do my best to get what I want. I don’t dwell on things I have messed up. I simply live my life by asking myself one question.

“What do I need to do next to get what I want?”

Nothing else matters unless you let things hold you back.

Thanks for reading. Time for bed.

I will be writing longer form material in the near future. My plate is too full at the moment. So, you are stuck with my rants at the moment (sorry).

Failures; Hardships; and Setbacks in Blogging and in Life

Have you ever reached that point where you feel like the world has given up on you? You keep striving to do your best, but the world never seems to take notice.

I have been there (many times!).

It’s not fun.

Whether you are short on paying bills or you just can’t write another word because you brain is overloaded with fear and doubt, the truth is…

YOU are good enough.

Now, I know you may read that and be skeptical. I don’t even know you.

How could I know that you are good enough?

I know because you are reading this. If you are reading this, I know you are looking for answers.

You are trying…

Plus, you probably got a little fire left to push through this hard time. And, that’s the key to overcoming any setback or hard time.

The setback is rarely the thing that holds you back.

It’s how you react to it.

But, I’m tired and it seems impossible”

Well, I got good news!

You can accomplish your dream.

And you don’t even need an expert to tell you how.

This seems to be something a lot of people miss. They think they need an expert to teach them the way to do something.

While the experts can give you great examples on what they did. They are not you.

You have to put in the work to see what works for you!

And guess what?

That means you are going to have setback and failures.

And that’s ok.

Be ok with that.

If you want to write a super awesome blog post, then figure it out. Go through the 100 failures it takes to get it right.

No expert will ever be able to tell you exactly what to do. You have to learn what to do with your audience in your situation.

If you want to monetize your blog, don’t look at others with envy. Find out what you can do today to start moving in that direction.

You will probably screw up a few times.

And that’s ok.

How many times are you going to let the world beat you?

Honestly, how many times are you going to give up?

This is not about pride. This is about you achieving what you want.

You are going to have to dig down deep to find the strength to push through.

Now, I could provide you with thousands of success stories and give you countless examples of the hardships that people have faced.

But, you don’t need that.

You just need someone like me to tell you that your dream is possible.

Maybe you fail 1000 more times.

It’s ok.

Keep pushing.

Your dream, whatever it is, can be achieved if you don’t give up.

“What happens if I never succeed?”

The dream, whatever it is, is not the yardstick by which you should measure your success.

You should measure your success by your movement toward your dream.

Quit thinking that every time you have a setback that you have failed.

With every setback, you have moved one step closer to the things you want.

Isn’t this what you want?

To know you are moving toward your success?

Over night success would be wonderful, but winning a fight of years of struggle is much more meaningful.

Keep inching toward it.

You have that strength and courage. You always have. It’s just hard to see it when you are surrounded by your let-down after let-down.

You have come so far in life, wherever you are.

You have learned so much.

Just think about how much further you can go, if you keep pushing forward.

One day I hope to see you living out your dream. But, if you aren’t, I fully expect to see you pushing toward it.

Thanks for reading and go get that dream of yours!

Why Your Blog Needs a Small Following

Have you ever wondered if all this effort is worth it? You work all day at your regular job, come home, and write until 2am. Hit the publish button and…

3 people read your post.

Ahhhhhhhh!!

Or…

Maybe you recieve a lot of views but nobody ever comes back.

Am I crazy?” You ask yourself…

“Why am I doing this?”

There are countless people online that will tell you that they can help grow your traffic and your site can be a success.

They will give you countless tips such as hopping on social media and promoting your site.

But…

I’m personally tired of reading about a man or woman who grew a website to 100,000 views/month in 8 months.

This kind of info seems to permeate every site I read these days. This is not the real world. They talk about how they made $50,000 last month and how their system can work for you.

Sure, there are plenty of people who can do that. But, most of you don’t have years of experience to lean on. You aren’t experts on SEO, CSS, and all the other blogging abbreviations.

You just type your thoughts onto the screen and hope that people will find you and read what you wrote.

Or, maybe you have a solid understanding. But, you are not an expert.

If you are an expert, you can stop reading now and go create a blogging empire.

As for the rest of us, I will continue…

It would be nice if there was a roadmap that you could follow.

The truth is you may spend months writing on your blog or website and have little to show for it.

So, what is the answer? Do you just continue to construct posts day after day hoping that people will find you?

You want to be heard, dang it!! (G rated version)

But, it seems few people are listening.

Here is a thought…

You are exactly where you need to be.

This may be hard to hear. Maybe you don’t want to hear it. But, you may not be quite ready for the big show. There are numerous reasons. None of them are things that you can’t change. Let’s take a look at a few.

Writing Skills

Writing is like most other things in life. It takes time to get better. You must develop as a writer and find your voice.

But…

“I am an excellent writer!” you say.

Let’s inspect deeper…

Various Other Aspects

  • What about your SEO?
  • Is your site easy to navigate?
  • Are you posting regularly?

These are some foundation things you may want to look at. I examined a bunch of blogs that had over 1,000 followers. I noticed that most of them posted consistently. They also had easy to navigate sites.

Most of these things just take time to learn. You should take the time to look at it if you want to be successful.

Structure and Content

  • Have you researched what people are interested in reading?
  • Is there a better way to structure your content?

These are important too. Try to take the time to see if your content is something people are interested in reading. Check out some blogs or social media and see what people are talking about.

Also, make sure it’s structured in a way that it is easy for people to read. Most of us learned in school that you need an outline for a paper. It’s no different when writing online.

These are just a few pointers. There are many more. I am not an expert. I’m still learning. But, I will try to go into more dept in a later post.

So, the next question is…

What is the rush?

Why are you thinking about things like driving traffic from social media to your blog if it is sub par?

Maybe you need a small following right now while you hone in your skills.

Take this opportunity to work on your instabilities. Do it while your traffic is low. As you get better, hopefully your traffic will increase.

If it doesn’t and you have everything laid out perfectly. Then, it may be time to drive some traffic to your site.

Spend this time preparing for when your traffic spikes. You want to take advantage of this situation. Work on pursuing the next level.

How much would you regret if you weren’t ready. You suddenly get 10,000 visitors and you have nothing to write because you haven’t researched. Or, none of your visitors can navigate your site to find articles.

Take this time to prepare and practice. Your time is coming and you want to be ready.

So, how can you prepare?

Content

Well laid out and polished content is king. You want to make sure you are working to get better. I noticed that the all the bigger blogs have excellent content.

I am not going to lie and tell you I have this all figured out. I’m learning right along side you. But, I understand when I visit a site, I want great quality.

Can you remember a time when someone was genuinely interested in you? When someone clicks on your blog or site, this is your chance to show them who you are and what you are about.

Don’t just throw some words on the page. Take some time to think about what your reader would love to learn about you. Make it entertaining.

Your reader’s time is valuable. Don’t waste it! Don’t let them open your About page and it has nothing about you on there (I’m guilty of this).

Short Post

Have you ever read a post that you were very interested in and it ended up only being 300 words. Such a let-down. You wanted more! But, the author just quit writing for whatever reason.

I’m not saying all your posts need to be long. But, if it’s something you know people are interested in. Give them something to read.

Hitting Publish Button too Quickly.

So, you finally created a post that you know people will love. Wait! Don’t hit publish. We are all so excited to get our words onto the internet.

Take a few hours or a day to think about your content. Are you leaving any questions unanswered?

That is how I wrote this post. I typed it out and then stepped back for a day and thought about it. I added a few things and rewrote it. Next, I thought about it some more.

I kept refining the material. Making it better. I didn’t publish my first draft. I crafted and polished it. I didn’t publish my second or third draft either.

You may be reading this and telling yourself this guy’s writing sucks! That is ok because I know that this is my best. I gave it everything I had. I didn’t take any shortcuts.

If you write poetry, write the best poetry you can write.

If you write about your life, make it interesting and fun.

If recipes are your niche, get creative and make me want more.

If you like writing short stories make them amazing.

When I post something, I want people to be excited to read it. I want my readers to know that I spent time considering what they want. Mostly, I want people to know that I value their time.

How do I do this?

I try to lay out the best posts that I can possibly write every time.

My site may not have the best theme. The structure of my posts may not be perfect. My content may pale in comparison to the best bloggers.

But, I gave it my all. I gave my 48 followers the best that I could write.

Maybe you should do the same.

Good luck out there…

The 3 Critics That Will Make Your Blog Awesome

I can still feel the pain of my first critic. Her name was Emily. She stabbed me in the hand with a pencil. We were 5. She thought the way I played wasn’t fun. I cried…


The consensus among most online polls is that the majority of bloggers will quit writing after a few months.

Why is that? Is it the critics?

The answer is yes and I can explain why…

We have all been there. The voices of our critics scream out from the page as we read them.

It hurts. You wish you were better. You thought you were. But, no you aren’t. Someone has seen your weakness and just made it known to the world. Oh no!

Don’t fret. Let’s take a look at these voices and see how we can handle them.

The Three Critics

Constructive Critic

People with constructive criticism will often advise you on techniques that you can use to improve your website. They may also suggest ways you can improve your content.

This makes you better in obvious ways. You can fix the flaws in your logic. When they highlight something you missed, you can go back and change it.

This interaction makes your work better and it aids in your ability to succeed.

The Destructive Critic

This is the one that most people are scared of. The destructive critic will try to destroy what you are doing by attacking it.

They announce that you don’t know what you are talking about. Their mission is to break your will. They want to see you fail.

This is actually a good thing. It will bring out your true followers. More on that in a minute.

The Inner Critic

That’s you. You think to yourself “I’m not good enough”.

This inner dialogue is what truly determines whether you make it or not. It doesn’t matter if you layout is horrible and you suck at writing content.

It’s what you do about it that determines what happens to your site.

Managing the Critics

How do you respond to these voices? The normal reaction is to hide. To give up. But, don’t give up yet. There is hope!

Handling Constructive Criticism

Not changing something from constructive criticism can be detrimental to your blog or website.

If the problem is how your site is organized, then change it. If your writing needs improvement, start looking at ways to make it better.

Grab a thesaurus, dictionary, and some examples of great writing and see what you are doing wrong.

Whatever the case, it needs to be fixed. If you ignore these comments, it could spell doom for your site.

Coping with the Troublesome Critics

The destructive criticism is tough. They will probably provide valid reasons why they disagree with your content.

It’s best to step back and look at what they are complaining about.

  • Are they trying to help?
  • Do they have a valid point?
  • What is their motivation?

If it’s something that needs to be changed, then change it! But, be careful not to lose sight of your true self. Don’t change something that you believe to be true.

The best way I handle destructive criticism is to get a second and third opinion.

The great thing about destructive criticism is that it will solidify your true followers. Your true followers will support you and defend you when a critic attacks.

This helps you build a stronger backing behind your name and your brand. These are the followers you want. The ones who defend your work. They are the ones who read your material and love it.

If someone critiques you, and you lose followers, they weren’t people you wanted to keep around anyway.

You want people who believe in your work and support you.

Thank you destructive criticism!

Dealing With Your Inner Voice

This voice is loud and never stops. It tells you that you will never make it. It proclaims that you aren’t good enough.

Well, guess what? We are all human! We all have limitations. It’s not that someone is better than you, they just have a better understanding than you.

So, how can you fix that?

Study. Read. Learn. Grow. Don’t give up! Become more valuable to your readers.

Someone right now is learning to be better. They are studying to make themselves better.

They are looking at Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, and a thousand other ways to improve their site. They are visiting blogs that are successful and learning.

Don’t think you are the only one struggling. We all struggle. We all fail. Getting back up is hard. Changing what we do is hard.

Facing that monster feels terrifying inside, but do it. One little step at a time. Don’t just try to be a success today. Try to be a success everyday.

Use the voices of your critics to become better. Take a hard look at those voices. Dissect them. They are gifts to launch you to the next level. Use them to your advantage.

Remember forward thinking…

If you write a blog like you have 500,000 followers, then one day you will.

If someone has criticized you and you handled it beautifully, I would love to hear about it.

Thanks for reading.

P.s. The cat picture appears in a lot of my posts. I realize it. It a silence tribute to someone.